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Reiki / Universal Life Force Energy

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Reiki (pronounced ray - key) Rei - means "Universal" and refers to the spiritual dimension of the soul. Ki- means "The vital life force energy that flows through all living things." When combined, its meaning is "Universal Life Force Energy." This laying-on of hands healing technique is thousands of years old.

Reiki is this natural healing energy, and it flows through the hands of the Reiki healer in a powerful and concentrated form. The energy is channeled through the hands of a practitioner into the body of a receiver. Because it is a Universal, God-given power, Reiki belongs to anyone who is ready to receive the gift of healing hands. Reiki is effective wherever hands touch, because Reiki hands radiate healing energy at any time, in any place.

Reiki encourages self-healing, strengthens body and soul, opens blocks, balances chakras, rebuilds harmony and flows in unlimited quantity. It is a channeled healing; therefore the Reiki practitioner's energies are never depleted. Additionally, because the healing Reiki energy is flowing through the practitioner during a treatment, both client and practitioner receive the benefits. For this reason, giving a treatment always increases one's energy and leaves one surrounded with loving feelings of well-being.

Benefits of Reiki:

  • Supports the body's natural ability to heal itself
  • Vitalizes both the body and soul
  • Balances the organs and glands and their bodily functions
  • Re-establishes spiritual equilibrium and mental well being
  • Promotes creativity
  • Balances the body's energies
  • Treats symptoms and causes of illnesses
  • Loosens up blocked energy and promotes a state of total relaxation
  • Relieves pain
  • Cleanses the body of toxins
  • Strengthens the immune system
  • Adjusts itself according to the needs of the recipient
  • Enhances personal awareness and strengthens intuition
  • Enhances meditation
  • Is an extremely pleasant, holistic method of healing!

Many religions throughout the world use Reiki to assist in healing; however, Reiki is not a religion or new ageism. Reiki is energy. Reiki can heal and energize the body because Reiki works on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. Reiki can be used to assist in re-balancing this system. Reiki is known to assist with reducing stress and with helping to manage pain as well as helping to heal the mind, body and spirit. Reiki is intuitive. Reiki goes where it is needed and does what is needed in that moment. Reiki is a healing system which uses the Universe's energy as well as the body's energy. Energy enters the practitioner through the crown and then the energy goes out through the hands into the person receiving Reiki. Reiki treats the practitioner first than passes to the receiver; therefore, both the practitioner and the receiver gain from this healing energy.

Brief History of Reiki: Dr. Mikao Usui is the founder of Reiki. He "rediscovered" the spiritual system known as Reiki in the 1800's in Japan. During a 21 day fast and meditation atop Mt. Kura-Yama, Usui discovered he could activate healing through the laying of hands. He passed his knowledge to his followers, one of which was Churjiro Hayashi, who ran a clinic in Tokyo. Hayashi, in turn, taught Mrs. Hawayto Takata, a Hawaiian. Mrs. Takata practiced and taught Reiki in Hawaii and in the 1970's, she brought it to the Mainland. It is because of Mrs. Takata that so many in the West have been trained and practice Reiki.

REIKI Treatment Rates
  • Initial session with treatment
  • 60 minutes - $65.00
  • 45 minutes - $55.00
  • 30 minutes - $35.00
  • Distance Healing - $45.00

21-Day Cleanse

After the attunement process in each of the three degrees, the student will undergo a 21-day cleanse process. Due to the raised vibratory rate of the physical and etheric bodies, old dense negative energy is forced "to the surface", and is released.

Solid matter does not really exist. Everything is composed of energy, thus everything has a vibration. Even rocks and minerals are made of energy; they simply have a lower rate of vibration. Negative blocks and emotional patterns, which are stored in our physical and etheric bodies, have a lower vibratory rate than the thought waves or pockets of energy that we create when we are thinking loving and positive thoughts. Thus as we increase our vibratory rate, through steady persistence at whichever spiritual discipline we chose to study, we begin to notice how much easier it is to maintain a positive flow, due to the snowball effect.

When we become attuned, the sudden amplification of vibratory rate acts as a trigger to set off an accelerated loosening of negative, dense energy with our systems, which cannot resonate with the finer vibrations created by the attunements. Since your vibration is adjusted so quickly, a reaction takes place which allows old stored-up emotions and memories to be released, as is appropriate for further growth. In takes approximately three days for the energy to move through each of the seven main chakras.

The energy transfer opens you up to the universal Reiki Ray. This also initiates the 21-day clearing cycle of the seven major chakras – one chakra a day, starting at the root chakra, processing through each three times. The initiation and cleaning cycle opens you to healing and psychic channels. You become more balanced after the completion of the process.

- 21-day cleanse gives increased evacuation of the bowels and bladder.
- increased mucous secretion in the upper respiratory passage
- burning, watery eyes
– ears and skin will exude an increased amount of poisons and waste products
– short fever
– temporary return of earlier illnesses.

Some other signs you may notice as a result of this cleansing process, include various dreams, "strange feelings", emotional changes such as detoxification, and an old habit or favorite food, which loses its importance in your life.

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Reiki Certification Courses

Reiki One (Level I) Certification Course - Initiation

Price: $180 + HST (includes a course booklet and certificate). Ask your booking agent for special reduced rate pricing for qualifying individuals. Space is limited to 8 people, so to secure your place in the class please pay a deposit. Length: 8 hrs.


Reiki Treatment
Group Treatment
Quick treatment
Hand Scanning
Hand Placement
Aura Clearing
Plants & Animals
Reiki Principle

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Reiki Two (Level II) Certification Course - The Practice

Price: $300 + HST (includes a course booklet and certificate). Ask your booking agent for special reduced rate pricing for qualifying individuals. Space is limited to 8 people, so to secure your place in the class please pay a deposit. Length: 12 hours.


Absentee Healing
Chakra Spinning/cleaning
Using symbols in treatments

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Reiki Master Certification Course

Price: $550 + HST (includes a course booklet and certificate). Ask your booking agent for special reduced rate pricing for qualifying individuals. Space is limited to 8 people, so to secure your place in the class please pay a deposit. Length: 15 hours.


Reiki Master's symbols
Business and marketing for Reiki courses and treatments
Planning curriculum and structuring classes
Level 1 and 2 will be reviewed / Attunements

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Free Reiki Class

Date and Time: Holiday's schedule
Topics include: What is Reiki; The Reiki treatment, Benefits of Reiki, How Reiki Works, Reiki history, Reiki Usage: relationships, children, friends, pets, and plants, Self-treatment, Volunteering Reiki, The 3 levels of training.

Reiki Shares

Date: December 2nd, 9th, from 6pm to 9pm.
Admission: $12
Reiki practitioners and other energy workers get together, exchange treatments, and try new methods. Group treatments are much more powerful than a regular session so it's a low cost way to help yourself. People can also call/email to see if there's still room on the day of the share.

About Reiki

Reiki is energy. Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. Reiki is composed of two Japanese words - Rei and Ki. Rei is a subtle wisdom that permeates everything, both animate and inanimate. Rei is also called God and has many other names depending on the culture that has named it. Rei - means the Spirit, Soul, the Universal god Ki is the non-physical energy that animates all living things. Ki is flowing in everything that is alive including plants, animals and humans. When a person's Ki is high, they will feel strong, confident, and ready to enjoy life and take on its challenges. When it is low, they will feel weak and are more likely to get sick. We receive Ki from the air we breathe, from food, sunshine, and from sleep. Ki - means the Energy Force, Breath of Life


  • Usui Reiki Ryōhō does not use any medication or instruments, but uses looking, blowing, light tapping, and touching. It has the ability to push away pain, anxiety, and negative emotions that constantly hang over you, like parting clouds on a stormy day.
  • Experience the joy of healing others, of watching for the first time their shock and astonishment at the healing power of Reiki techniques.
  • It can bring balance to your life and fill you with a kind of contentment and understanding of yourself that you never before thought was possible.

In the following days he thought out the Reiki Principles:

Just for today, do not worry.
Just for today, do not anger.
Honor your parents, teachers and elders.
Earn your living honestly.
Show gratitude to everything.

Quit Smoking

Throughout his years of practice, Konstantine has developed special techniques for treating smoking dependence; a speciality of his practice and one of the most common requests that he deals with on an everyday basis.

What can you expect from a quit smoking session with Konstantine?

  • Personalized approach with a program designed specifically for you and your life history circumstances.
  • A non-aggressive persuasion technique concentrating on the benefits of quitting targeting the subconscious.
  • A no fear method is used to not cause any additional phobias.
  • No rush approach. Konstantine takes his time in order to touch on all the distant corners of consciousness so that the technique is as effective as possible.

The desired outcome of quitting takes on average about 4 sessions, but, very often 2 sessions is enough.

Currently there are hundreds of Konstantine's clients who have been smoke free for more than a year, and extremely satisfied with his services.

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Weight Loss

Our second most popular treatment is for clients who would like to lose weight, who have eating issues or who are overweight.

We have treated hundreds of clients with various eating issues. The following is what you can expect when you come to New Age Holistic Center to tackle this issue:

  • In depth research into the causes of the problem and methodical persuasion structured around major causes discovered during the discovery phase of the process
  • Non-aggressive persuasion based not on fear but on benefits
  • Complex approach to discovering all major eating problems causes, each one is reviewed and worked on in order to increase the efficiency of the sessions

Hypnosis is over 30 times more effective for weight loss when compared to traditional methods. On average, 17 pounds were lost in a test hypnosis group versus an average of half a pound lost by the group who did not undergo hypnosis. Throughout history, hypnosis of varying forms has been a part of many cultures in their quest to understand the magnitude of the power of the mind and its ability to control human habits & behavior. Science is now devoting more research into proving the effects of hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a state of inner absorption and concentration, like being in a trance. Hypnosis is usually done with the help of a hypnotherapist using verbal repetition and mental images. When you're under hypnosis, your attention is highly focused, and you're more responsive to suggestions, including behavior changes that can help you lose weight.

Through hypnosis, you can experience a natural weight loss without supplements, packaged foods, or fad diets.

Weight Loss


To understand the concept of Hypnosis, we must first understand how it affects oneself. Think of your mind as an iceberg; the 10% you see floating above the surface represents your conscious mind and the 90% unseen, below the surface part of the iceberg represents your unconscious.

The consciousness mind is the very limited part of us. It's the part of the mind that allows one to be aware of things; things in ones immediate awareness are in ones conscious mind. The conscious mind has the ability to analyze things, to make judgements about what is right or wrong. It is the part of the mind that limits us and tells us what is possible.

The unconscious mind is not as rigid as or as analytical as the conscious mind. More importantly, it's not as limited as the conscious mind. This is the part of the mind that hypnosis works on primarily. The term unconscious and conscious was made popular by Freud. He developed the idea that there were layers to human consciousness. He thought that certain psychic events take place "below the surface" or in the unconsciousness mind. A good example is dreaming. Freud at that time was experimenting heavily with hypnosis. Most bodily processes are not consciously controlled (breathing, blinking, blood circulation). Creative ideas do not come from conscious thinking. These specific ideas come when the mind spontaneously moves from one thought to the next. We often wake up in the morning with an insight or solution to a problem we previously had none for.

What is hypnosis? It's a state or condition in which the client becomes highly responsive to suggestions. The hypnotized individual seems to follow instructions in an uncritical, automatic fashion and responds only to those aspects of the environment made relevant by the hypnotist. If the client is profoundly responsive, he/she may hear, see, feel, smell, and sometimes even taste in accordance with the suggestions given regardless of the fact that these reactions may be in direct contradiction to the actual stimuli that are affecting the client. Furthermore, memory and awareness of self can be altered by suggestions. All of these effects can be extended post-hypnosis and integrated into the individual's everyday waking activity.

Who can be hypnotized? Some people believe that only fools can be hypnotized. The truth is because hypnosis requires concentration; the best clients are actually the more intelligent of the population. Genius's or people with high IQ's are the most ideal candidates.

Who can't be hypnotized? Infants and children under age of 4 cannot be hypnotized as they have a lack of concentration. Additionally, intoxicated people, those on drugs or alcohol, people with schizophrenia and people with large amounts physical pain cannot be hypnotized because these things distract from concentration.

Suggestions. Unconscious suggestions are at work all the time. Even though we are not aware of them, we constantly, unknowingly program ourselves using suggestions. Example: An agent hears his client tell him that premiums are too high and he will automatically think: "I'm losing the client."

Self Hypnosis

Self-hypnosis is the method of hypnotizing oneself with one's own voice or thoughts. Affirmations or positive statements are used in conjuncture and are based on rational thinking to overcome stress and anxiety. These affirmations are repeated again and again in the sub conscious mind so that the person is motivated to achieve his goals and targets. Self-hypnosis can also be done without affirmations, depending on the needs of the person.

Self hypnosis helps in the relaxation of body. It relieves anxiety and eliminates stress hormones like adrenaline. It frees the mind of unpleasant thoughts, changes ones outlook towards life and makes the mind more focused towards positive visions and goals. Self- hypnosis is much more affordable as you do not need to consult your hypnotherapist before every treatment.

Here is an example of self-hypnosis. These are 10 simple steps to overcome stress by yourself:

Step 1 - Sit in a comfortable and calm place.

Step 2 - Close your eyes and take a deep full breath exhaling completely till you feel your lungs empty entirely. Inhale one more time to let in clean, refreshing air. Hold the air in for 5 seconds and then exhale again. Repeat this 2-3 times until you feel relaxed all over. This step cleanses the lungs and fills them with fresh air creating a relaxed state.

Step 3 - Focus your attention on your knees relaxing them first. Follow the same process as you move mentally down to your calves, ankles, feet and toes, relaxing them all. You should feel as if everything below your knee is loose and relaxed.

Step 4 - Relax your thigh, hip and waist the same way, slowly. Feel your thigh becoming heavy and relaxed in your seat.

Step 5 - Next relax your chest. Relaxing your chest includes relaxing the internal organs as well. Focus on relaxing your lungs, heart, stomach etc. Allow your breaths to become effortless and deeper, more regular and much more relaxed.

Step 6 - Continue up the body in the same way relaxing your shoulders, arms, forearms, hands, fingers, neck and throat. Allow your head to droop loose in your neck and all the neck muscles to relax.

Step 7 - Next relax the muscles in your face completely till it is smooth and loose. Relax your jaw and let your teeth come away from each other. Relax the muscles around your eyes.

Step 8 - Let your fears, worries and tensions slip away from your head, down through your shoulders, continuing through the body and reaching all the way to the tip of your big toe.

Step 9 - Deepen your thoughts. Internally repeat positive statements that you have prepared for this relaxation session. Repeat this exercise and the affirmations repeatedly until you have gone through the process 8-10 times.

Step 10 - Open your eyes and allow yourself to feel the change. You should feel as if you have just woken up from a very long, deep sleep. You should feel more relaxed, energetic and refreshed; your mind and body very clear.

Try to do these 10 steps daily or at least 3-4 day a week for 15-20 minutes. The results are highly beneficial and long lasting. You will begin to slowly notice steady improvement as your thinking becomes more philosophical and your body and mind are relieved from day to day stress. Long term, unsolved issues will become less of a burden the longer you continue this weekly exercise.

Alternative methods like counting back from 100 to 1 in reverse order can be used to achieve complete relaxation. Additionally, imagine looking at a black board and begin to write the letters of the alphabet with your imagination sub sequentially erasing them. Repeat this again and again till you are completely relaxed. Then as usual repeat the affirmations.

Self Hypnosis

Public Speaking

In a recent survey, a fear of public speaking was ranked far above a fear of death and is more commonly the first fear mentioned when talking to people about what frightens them most.

This fear of public speaking is the most common phobia. It's a form of performance anxiety in which a person becomes very concerned that he or she will look visibly anxious, maybe even have a panic attack while speaking. It can range from slight nervousness to a paralyzing fear and panic. Many people with this phobia avoid public speaking situations altogether, or they suffer through them with shaking hands and a quivering voice. Over time, people try to protect themselves by either avoiding public speaking or by struggling against speech anxiety.

That first moment in front of an audience is usually when fear of public speaking - or this debilitating nervousness - really takes over. Self-consciousness, the sense of exposure, the thought that people are judging you, all these things play a part in diminishing what should be an enjoyable experience for you and the audience. A fear of public speaking is considered an irrational fear, as it does not threaten ones personal safety, health or physical well being.

Here are some of the main possible reasons for this "stage fright":

  • Unfamiliar situation - because most people speak formally to an audience only rarely, the novelty of the situation is a cause of apprehension
  • Lack of confidence - stems often from a feeling that others are better speakers than ourselves, or that they know more about the topic in question
  • Sense of isolation - the speaker is alone and vulnerable
  • Self-consciousness - about a specific accent, grammar, voice and image generally
  • Fear of looking foolish - we may worry that we will forget what we wanted to say, and will stumble over our words, or will say the "wrong" thing

The fear of public speaking, which is a form of social phobia, is of course irrational but is all too real to those who suffer from it. The good news is that hypnotherapy can help you to get over public speaking anxiety by using the power of your own subconscious mind.

Hypnosis can help with building up your confidence, helping you to remain calm and relaxed. You can learn how to recognise your body's unique reaction to stress and anxiety and to develop new healthy and positive ways of thinking and feeling. Deep relaxation techniques used in hypnosis help you to focus inwards and start to build your feeling of confidence, calm and self-belief.

In hypnotherapy you may use visualisation techniques, using the power of your imagination to rehearse or practice a speech or presentation in your mind. By doing so you will have already experienced the feeling of delivering a great performance and your mind will have been pre-programmed for success. With your feelings of confidence and control restored, public speaking can be approached with a new level of calm and assurance.

Imagine if, instead of turning to jelly, you could learn to enjoy speaking in public and even look forward to it, writing your own speeches and presentations and most importantly, getting your thoughts across in a calm, assertive and impressive manner.

Contact us today for your free no-obligation consultation 905-503-2000 and start speaking fearlessly and comfortably in front of any group or audience.

Public Speaking

Stress Management

Stress originates from the Latin word 'stringere', which means to stay tight or to compress. Millions of people around the world are stressed daily due to a multitude of reasons. Stress can affect a person physically, physiologically and psychologically. Stress alters one's mind and body and can make him or her feel like a different person.

Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, frustrations, and demands. For many people, stress is such a commonplace that it becomes just another facet of life. Stress isn't always bad, in small doses it can even help you perform under pressure and motivate you to do your best. But when you're constantly operating in emergency mode, your mind and body ultimately pay the price. You can however protect yourself by recognizing the signs and symptoms of stress and taking the appropriate steps to reduce its harmful effects.

Stress is a normal physical response to events that make you feel threatened or upset your balance in some way. When you sense danger—whether it's real or imagined—the body's defenses kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the "fight-or-flight-or-freeze" reaction, or the stress response.

The stress response is the body's way of protecting itself. When working properly, it helps you stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save your life—giving you extra strength to defend yourself, for example, or spurring you to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident.

At a certain point stress stops being helpful and can start to cause major damage to your health, your mood, your productivity, your relationships, and your quality of life. There are two basic approaches to help in managing stress effectively. The first is achieving mental and emotional balance which enables us to handle the stresses of life with a calm composure. The second is learning useful techniques of dealing with specific events and situations that have been pestering us for a long time.

Some treatments and techniques include: Hypnosis, Allopathic Treatments, Herbal Medications, Yoga, and Meditations. These practices and a few others have shown significant detectable impact on effects of stress and can be used to begin to combat it all together.

Hypnosis, which is often a less known and less practiced method of stress management, is one of the oldest and best techniques. It is neither a magical nor a mystical ritual but a more straightforward method in managing stress. Hypnotherapy is the art of letting out emotions and feelings that are troubling you. It is a trance or deeply relaxed but focused state. The person is in a subconscious mind while being hypnotized. The desired goals or status of mind is brought into the mind when the person is in this sub conscious state. The person keeps on repeating those imposed ideas. So when you have to again come across the same stressful situations in future your approach and reactions will be different after hypnotherapy.

Hypnosis is a much quicker and easier method than yoga and meditation and it is a much cheaper technique. It is rather a soft and gentle method for stress relief. The number of sessions of hypnotherapy depends on the amount of stress and desired results.

Stress Management

Fight Addiction


What is addiction?

People with an addiction do not have control over what they are doing, taking or using. Their addiction may reach a point at which it is harmful. Addictions do not only include physical things we consume, such as drugs or alcohol, but may include virtually anything, such abstract things as gambling to seemingly harmless products, such as chocolate - in other words, addiction may refer to a substance dependence (e.g. drug addiction) or behavioral addiction (e.g. gambling addiction).

In the past addiction used to refer just to psychoactive substances that cross the blood-brain barrier, temporarily altering the chemical balance of the brain; this would include alcohol, tobacco and some drugs. A considerable number of psychologists, other health care professionals and lay people now insist that psychological dependency, as may be the case with gambling, sex, internet, work, exercise, etc. should also be counted as addictions, because they can also lead to feelings of guilt, shame, hopelessness, despair, failure, rejection, anxiety and/or humiliation.

When a person is addicted to something they cannot control how they use it, and become dependent on it to cope with daily life.
Many of us can use substances or become engaged in activities without any significant problems. Some people, however, may experience damaging psychological and/or physical effects when their habit becomes an addiction.

What is the difference between a habit and an addiction?

Addiction - there is a psychological/physical component; the person is unable to control the aspects of the addiction without help because of the mental or physical conditions involved.

Habit - it is done by choice. The person with the habit can choose to stop, and will subsequently stop successfully if they want to. The psychological/physical component is not an issue as it is with an addiction.

Put simply - with a habit you are in control of your choices, with an addiction you are not in control of your choices.

Addiction to substances or activities can sometimes lead to serious problems at home, work, school and socially.

The causes of addiction vary considerably, and are not often fully understood. They are generally caused by a combination of physical, mental, circumstantial and emotional factors.

Addiction, often referred to as dependency often leads to tolerance - the addicted person needs larger and more regular amounts of whatever they are addicted to in order to receive the same effect. Often, the initial reward is no longer felt, and the addiction continues because withdrawal is so unpleasant.

According to Medilexicon's Medical Dictionary:
Addiction is Habitual psychological or physiologic dependence on a substance or practice that is beyond voluntary control. Withdrawal has many meanings, one of which is A psychological and/or physical syndrome caused by the abrupt cessation of the use of a drug in an habituated person.

According to the current Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV), published by the American Psychiatric Association:
Substance dependence is When an individual persists in use of alcohol or other drugs despite problems related to use of the substance, substance dependence may be diagnosed. Compulsive and repetitive use may result in tolerance to the effect of the drug and withdrawal symptoms when use is reduced or stopped. This, along with Substance Abuse are considered Substance Use Disorders.

What Are The Signs And Symptoms Of Addiction?

Substance dependence - when a person is addicted to a substance, such as a drug, alcohol or nicotine, they are not able to control the use of that substance. They continue taking it, even though it may cause harm (the individual may or may not be aware of the potential harm). Substance dependence can cause powerful cravings. The addict may want to give up (quit), but finds it extremely difficult to do so without help.

The signs and symptoms of substance dependence vary according to the individual, the substance they are addicted to, their family history (genetics), and personal circumstances.

- The person takes the substance and cannot stop - in many cases, such as nicotine, alcohol or drug dependence, at least one serious attempt was made to give up, but unsuccessfully.
- Withdrawal symptoms - when body levels of that substance go below a certain level the patient has physical and mood-related symptoms. There are cravings, bouts of moodiness, bad temper, poor focus, a feeling of being depressed and empty, frustration, anger, bitterness and resentment.
- There may suddenly be increased appetite. Insomnia is a common symptom of withdrawal. In some cases the individual may have constipation or diarrhea. With some substances, withdrawal can trigger violence, trembling, seizures, hallucinations, and sweats.
- Obsession - an addicted person may spend more and more time and energy focusing on ways of getting hold of their substance, and in some cases how to use it.
- Dropping hobbies and activities - as the addiction progresses the individual may stop doing things he/she used to enjoy a lot. This may even be the case with smokers who find they cannot physically cope with taking part in their favorite sport.
- Taking risks (1) - in some cases the addicted individual make take risks to make sure he/she can obtain his/her substance, such as stealing or trading sex for money/drugs.
- Relationship problems - these are more common in drug/alcohol addiction.

Addiction is a brain disease.

  • Drugs change how the brain works.
  • These brain changes can last for a long time.
  • They can cause problems like mood swings, memory loss, even trouble thinking and making decisions.

Addiction is a disease, just as diabetes and cancer are diseases. Addiction is not simply a weakness. People from all backgrounds, rich or poor, can get an addiction. Addiction can happen at any age, but it usually starts when a person is young.

Ego Strengthening

Ego Strengthening

The Idea of ego-strength has a long history in the field of psychology that can be traced back to the development of Sigmund Freud's three-tiered view of personality in terms of id, ego, and super-ego. Many of the major psychological theorists spoke to the intrinsic human strivings for personal power and autonomy, as a universal ego drive that is not only normal, but a healthy goal – and intrinsically connected to relationship goals. This and other core strivings, or emotion drivers, are universal motivators of human behavior.

What makes a healthy ego essential to your personal and relational happiness? In a nutshell a healthy ego is foremost an ability to regular painful emotions rooted in anger and fear. Thought the term "ego" is commonly used to describe one who boasts, is arrogant, treats other with scorn, lacks empathy, and the like, the concept of ego is neutral in itself. The word "ego" is a Greek work "I", meaning the core sense of self, a distinct and unique expression of personhood, albeit one that paradoxically exists in connection or in relation to life and others.

Thus, the term Ego may take on different meanings depending on where it falls on a continuum between a healthy ego, on the one end of spectrum, and an unhealthy one on the other. As an infant, a child is born without sense of self, and thus without an ego per se. This served our development and survival at the time. Conceivably, it allowed us to experience a felt sense of oneness with our mother or other primary attachment figures. This was critical to our survival at the time and permitted us to gradually transition from a felt state of total oneness with mother to developing a personal sense of self as separate and unique. In contract, "ego-strength" refers to a cultivated resiliency or strength of our core sense of self, the extent to which we learn to face and grow from challenging events or persons in our lives in ways that strengthen our relationship with our self and others and enrich our lives with meaning. Our ego-strength is an integral part of our psycho-social-emotional and cultural development and forms our sense of self, or self-concept, in relation to self and others around you. A person with little or weak ego-strength lacks resiliency, sticks mostly to what "feels" comfortable to them, and avoid what it does not. They tend to hold unrealistic expectations, which are held rigidly in place by emotionally charged core beliefs that activate the body's stress response, as they are rooted in fear and anxiety. Thinking patterns are out of balance. The person holds limiting beliefs and toxic thinking patterns that, on the one extreme, cause them to "think" they lack resources, are too weak or fragile to handle certain triggering situations, such as conflict – or on the other extreme, rely on their anger and rage to get or "teach" others to recognize, appreciate or love them in the way they aspire. In either case they hold unrealistic expectations that others or life should take their pain away, and seek others, activities or substances that can give them the constant source of comfort and assurance that they believe they need and "must" have to feel okay about themselves and their life. Such expectations are based on core beliefs that are limiting in that they unnecessarily activate the body's stress response and reactivity. Recall from other posts that learning is impeded when the brain is in "protective" mode. The stress response activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which shuts off the brain's learning mode. This means the reflective thinking parts of the brain are not operating, thus, it's less likely if not impossible to consider healthy options and new possibilities. Thus, reactive response not only blocks us from developing a healthier ego or ego-strength, they also make us prone to repeating problematic behavior patterns.

In earthier case an underdeveloped ego-strength tends to live and act in defensive ways that are self-perpetuating. This further weakens their capacity to cope with day to day challenges. Characteristically they:
- Waste a lot of energy fighting and, or hating reality, and wishing it would go away.
- Reject or deny the necessity of facing what they most fear and are most challenged by.
- Confuse strength with the particular defence strategies they most rely on, i.e. angry outburst, avoidance, denial, wishful, thanking and the like.
- Refuse to accept or deal with what is happening in their lives at present or what happened in the past, and think escaping (the pain of growing, developing, maturing and etc.) is a viable solutions.
- Have unrealistic expectations for what "should" or "must" happen in order for them to feel strong or valued.
- Believe relationships and happiness in life means the absence of emotional pain, fear and anger.

Outward appearances can be deceiving. Paradoxically, the "bigger the ego" one has, the weaker their ego-strength. In turn, the weaker the ego-strength, the more rigid the refusal to feel and to process the painful feelings, beliefs and thoughts that are essential to break free of stuck places, which can put life on hold. In contrast, a person with well-developed ego-strength is resilient, optimistic, and has a strong sense of self as capable in handling challenges. The stronger the ego-strength, the more comfortable one feels in taking ownership of their problems and giving ownership to others for this. A healthy ego-strength is connected to a healthy self-concept, one that is resilient, thus can look at a situation and see beyond it, understand the difference between wants and needs, and practices acceptance to discern between what can and cannot be changes, to respond accordingly.

A healthy ego gives us the needed ego-strength to navigate challenging moments, and emotions of vulnerability rooted in fear and anxiety, with ease and resilience. It is an essential skill in the formation of healthy emotional intimacy in couple relationships. Unlike weak ego-strength, we are less likely to personalize what others say or do, and more likely to accept our self and others as human being who have a right to make mistakes, and to grow their own problem solving abilities in the process-by making and learning from mistakes. It is very basic to how healthy human being learned. Your level of ego-strength refers to your ability to be adaptive, flexible and resilient in how you respond to challenging circumstances in your personal life and relationships. Thus, ego –strength is a measure of your:
- personal power to make optimal choices at any given moment in time.
- capacity to regulate difficult emotions in order to remain in optimal emotional states.
- ability to accept what is, in past or present, and tolerate discomfort, stress, frustration without getting triggered.

In many ways, your ego-strength reflects the extent to which your core beliefs and expectations are serving you, at any given time, to make optimal choices in moments when you face challenges. Unrealistic expectations for yourself, others and life are energy draining to your ego, or sense of self.

Core beliefs are limiting when:
- they turn fears into bigger-than-life illusions, thus, seemingly too scary or overwhelming to deal with effectively.
- they unnecessarily activate your body's stress response, making automatic defensive tactics, such as blame, avoidance.
- they block you from making new healthy choices or changes, and thus impair your personal and relational growth and development.
- they keep you stuck repeating problem behaviors, habits. Addictive relating patterns and so on.

All of the above lower your ego-strength. When a grounded sense of your own personal power, you are more likely to stay determined, hopeful, believing and empathically engaged to your compassion for yourself and key other. In contrast to an unhealthy one, a well-developed ego-strength allows you to relate to self and others in ways that promote mutual cooperation and positive regard. In a nutshell, a healthy ego is essential to your personal and relational happiness.

How can hypnosis help improve my relationships?

Ask yourself:
1. Are you making the same mistakes in your relationships that you have made before?
2. Are you attracting the same type of relationships that were unsatisfying in the past?
3. Do you feel unworthy of a healthy loving relationship?
4. Do you have a hard time communicating in your relationship?
5. Are your relationships unhealthy?

Healing Hypnosis can get to the source of the thoughts and feelings that are getting in the way of your relationships. We are the products of our past experiences. We often don't realize that others trigger feelings and responses in us that are old responses and feelings that came from previous relationships. Those relationships include parents, siblings, friends and enemies. Hypnosis will help you sort out the old, useless responses allowing you to enjoy your present experiences. Our subconscious mind holds onto all our feelings and experiences from the past that can often get in the way of our present relationships. Hypnosis is the fastest, most effective way to communicate effectively with the unconscious mind.

We attract what we think about and focus on. We attract people who are like us, who have similar values to us. Sometimes, by default, we attract those people who have qualities we don't like in ourselves, because that's what we focus upon. When we focus on our negative traits, we attract people with those negative traits. When you have unhealthy relationships, it is often because you have unhealthy thoughts or ideas about what relationships should be. Or, sometimes you have fears about what relationships will be. WHAT YOU FOCUS ON, IS WHAT YOU ATTRACT! Change your thoughts, focus on what you want... not what you don't want, in a partner, and watch to see who you attract.

Often relationships suffer as a result of our stress and negative thoughts and emotions. If you have love, a home, at least 1 friend, you have plenty to be grateful about. Feeling grateful will help balance all negative stress in your life... if you allow it. If you only focus on what you don't have, you will get more of it and feel worse about it. You cannot control the world... but you CAN control the way you respond to it. You cannot control other people, but you can control how you allow them to effect you. You are the creator of your thoughts. If you don't allow yourself to see the beauty in your life and appreciate your partner, your relationship will suffer.

Hypnosis can help you to release anger, stress and negative thoughts... all of which have a profound affect on your relationships.

Are you ready to change your mind to change your life? If not now... when?

Why would you want help with relationships? Because relationships are the central pillar of a happy and satisfying life, that's why. Whether it's about making it work with a new partner, just enjoying a date, putting things right after a spat, or dealing with insecurity, hypnosis can really help you deal with the psychological and emotional issues that arise in any relationship.
Nor is it just about partners/dates/spouses. Your family and social links are just as important for your health and well being as your connection with a 'significant other'. Life's so much better when you can get on with your mom or dad, step mom or step dad, children or step children, siblings or step siblings - and let's not even mention the in-laws!
Whether you are currently dating, or in a long-term partnership, browse our downloads to see if we can help you make more of the relationships you treasure.

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Sleep Problems

Sleep Problems

What are some facts about insomnia?

Insomnia is a common sleep problem for adults. The National Institutes of Health estimates that roughly 30 percent of the general population complains of sleep disruption, and approximately 10 percent have associated symptoms of daytime functional impairment consistent with the diagnosis of insomnia.
Insomnia may be characterized based on its duration. Acute insomnia is brief and often happens because of life circumstances (for example, when you can't fall asleep the night before an exam, or after receiving stressful or bad news). Many people may have experienced this type of passing sleep disruption, and it tends to resolve without any treatment.
Chronic insomnia is disrupted sleep that occurs at least three nights per week and lasts at least three months. Chronic insomnia disorders can have many causes. Changes in the environment, unhealthy sleep habits, shift work, other clinical disorders, and certain medications could lead to a long-term pattern of insufficient sleep. People with chronic insomnia may benefit from some form of treatment to help them get back to healthy sleep patterns. Chronic insomnia can be comorbid, meaning it is linked to another medical or psychiatric issue, although sometimes it's difficult to understand this cause and effect relationship.

People with insomnia tend to have difficulty falling asleep (onset), staying asleep (maintenance), and/or they wake up too early in the morning. Treatment for insomnia can include behavioral, psychological, medical components or some combination thereof. You and your doctor will need to talk about your particular situation and history of insomnia, as well as its causes, to decide on the best treatment plan.

Symptoms of Insomnia

According to guidelines from a physician group, people with insomnia have one or more of the following symptoms:
• Difficulty falling asleep
• Difficulty staying asleep (waking up during the night and having trouble returning to sleep)
• Waking up too early in the morning
• Unrefreshing sleep (also called "non-restorative sleep")
• Fatigue or low energy
• Cognitive impairment, such as difficulty concentrating
• Mood disturbance, such as irritability
• Behavior problems, such as feeling impulsive or aggression
• Difficulty at work or school
• Difficulty in personal relationships, including family, friends and caregivers

The duration of insomnia is important. Doctors consider insomnia chronic if it occurs at least three nights per week for three months or longer. At this point, your insomnia may be a behavioral pattern (for example, your nighttime routines do not cue your body for sleep, or your sleep schedule is out of sync with your biological clock), or it could be comorbid, meaning it is linked to another medical or psychiatric issue that needs to be addressed. Recently, researchers have begun to think about insomnia as a problem of your brain being unable to stop being awake. Your brain has a sleep cycle and a wake cycle—when one is turned on the other is turned off. Insomnia can be a problem with either part of this cycle: too much wake drive or too little sleep drive. Regardless of its cause, if insomnia has become a regular occurrence, talking to your doctor about treatment may be a good idea.

You may also want to consider whether and to what degree insomnia is affecting your life. If you feel fatigued or have low energy during the day and it gets in the way of your productivity and enjoyment of friends, family, or hobbies that probably means you could benefit from talking to your doctor. If you've tried on your own to make adjustments to your sleep routines and it hasn't worked, you may want to enlist the help of a sleep specialist.

Insomnia, or the inability to sleep, can take many forms.
Have you ever crawled into bed exhausted, thinking you'd fall asleep in seconds, only to find yourself still awake an hour later? Or maybe you tend to fall asleep quickly but wake up many times through the night. Or perhaps you wake up at 4 or 5 a.m. and can't get back to sleep, even though you still feel tired and don't have to get up until 7 a.m. These are all versions of insomnia.

If you can relate to any of these scenarios, you're in good company. Half of all Americans have experienced insomnia at some time in their lives, and a good number experience it on a regular basis.
Insomnia is a broad term that describes trouble going to sleep, staying asleep, or sleeping for the full time you need to in order to feel refreshed. Insomnia, like other secondary sleep disorders, is most often a symptom that some other physical, emotional, behavioral or environmental problem is affecting sleep. Most researchers characterize the different types of insomnia by frequency and length of time it continues. The following are the main forms of insomnia.

• Transient, or temporary, insomnia typically lasts between one and several nights and is usually caused by stress or emotion.
• Intermittent insomnia occurs off and on over a long period of time and is also most frequently a result of stress or anxiety.
• Chronic insomnia occurs on most nights, lasts at least two weeks (and possibly much longer), and may result from one or more medical conditions.

Transient and intermittent insomnia are usually best treated by practicing some proven methods of stress reduction and/or changing your sleep environment. Chronic insomniacs may also need professional help, especially if their sleeplessness is related to a medical condition.There are several medical conditions - heartburn, for example - that can affect sleep.

Hypnosis can be defined as a procedure during which changes in sensations, perceptions, thoughts, feelings or behaviour are suggested. Hypnosis can be used to amplify whatever it is about therapy that makes it therapeutic. It permits a wide range of choices regarding where and how to intervene in the patient's problems. In this paper, we set out to examine the rationale of using hypnotherapy to manage various types of sleep disorders, and to explore the techniques, strategies and hypnotic scripts employed by various hypnotherapists. We also examine the research data available on the efficacy of hypnosis in the treatment of sleep disorders. Acute and chronic insomnia often respond to relaxation and hypnotherapy approaches, along with sleep hygiene instructions. Hypnotherapy has also helped with nightmares and sleep terrors. There are several reports of successful use of hypnotherapy for parasomnias, specifically for head and body rocking, bedwetting and sleepwalking. Hypnosis is a specialised technique, not a therapy itself, and should be used as an adjunctive intervention within a complete psychological and medical treatment package. Most of the literature is limited to case reports or studies with such a small sample that at times it is very difficult to interpret the results. There is a major placebo effect, so uncontrolled trials are of limited value. It is hard to perform a randomised, double-blind, controlled trial to evaluate hypnotherapy given that cooperation and rapport between patient and therapist is needed to achieve a receptive trance state.